How many times have you set a good intention? You know those good thoughts you have to eat better, sleep more, have less device time, more movement ... you get the drift. Often we start off with a hiss and a roar, we have a day or two of doing so well and then bit by bit we start to drop off the wagon, we make excuses or we feel too tired and before you know it you are back to square one. I've got a terrible sweet tooth, I love sugar! One of my more common experiences is I'll try to drop the sugar, I'll go well for a few days, I'll congratulate myself and then straight away reward myself with a treat! I know, I'm even rolling my eyes as I write this! There is no logic it is just an ingrained pattern.
Why is it so hard to do the right thing by ourselves? Life gets in the way usually. Kids are busy, work is full on, nothing is flowing easily it all feels like an effort so you focus all your energy on just surviving, doing the "necessary" tasks to get through each day. Goodness knows that is enough sometimes without then having to find the time to take care of our own needs. We "reward" ourselves with things that aren't particularly good for us like sweets, alcohol or binge watching Netflix!
Here's the trick - try not to set unachievable goals that are impossible to sustain. Small wins daily will create habits that then turn into the larger wins. The way I approach self care is to have intentions that are achievable. I know I'm not great at deprivation, I like my treats and as soon as I tell myself I can't have it that's all I think about. So rather than going well for a day or two and then blowing out completely I give myself the little treat once a day but in a small portion.
Finding time for self care is tricky but if you can figure out your optimal time in the day for when certain activities are easy you will soon realise that you do have time to do something for yourself. I know that I have more energy in the morning than in the afternoon so that is the time I practice my yoga or get out in nature to walk or surf. If I don't do those things I find myself feeling angry and upset that I "missed my window". It also means that whatever happens later in the day I have a sense of satisfaction that I have done something good for my body. I also know I don't operate well at the end of the evening, usually I don't want to work or chat, but I do really enjoy a soak in the bath and a good book, it's a bit of escapism but it is also a great wind down after a hectic day and another opportunity to take care of myself.
This is where online yoga comes in super handy, we know it's good for us but sometimes it's a struggle to get to a scheduled class. Now you have the opportunity to do whatever class you feel like whenever or wherever you want. Now you really don't have an excuse for not taking care of your mind, your body and your soul. So optimise your time, find the thing you love that makes you feel good and fill your cup!